Wednesday, December 1, 2010

A Wedding as a Bridesmaid part 3 - What I Learned

Wow, those recaps were long right? Especially considering it wasn't even my wedding ;). But then, I did have a great time, and this is a good way to chronicle that.

Anyway...
1). Give yourself plenty of time for everything you want to do. Katerina and S had a very reasonable and timely schedule planned out for us, but we were always running behind. Everything worked out since they built cushion time into the schedule, but if they hadn't things would have been a lot more stressful. And stress is not something we need more of at a wedding.

2). Have your wedding over a holiday break. This is DEFINITELY particular to me since all my sisters and most of my cousins are all in school or in college and will be when Mishka and I get married. Katerina and S did end up having their wedding over a long weekend, but for two college students with homework it was still pushing it time-wise. Particularly since we were both in the bridal party and had more functions to attend then just the ceremony and reception. Don't get me wrong, I regret nothing and I had an amazing weekend. But I just don't think it would be fair to my sisters to have my wedding over a weekend, even a long weekend, where they'd have to fly out on Friday and fly back on Sunday with non-stop events in between. Sure everyone says they'll work in transit... but do we really? I know I don't. So Thanksgiving Break, Summer Break, and Winter Break became my most viable options (I don't include spring break because many schools have their spring breaks at different times).

I'm still waiting to hear back on our proposed date though so you just have my blog layout as your hint for which holiday break we chose ;).

3). Something will not go as planned. Whether it be your minister forgets his lines, you (the couple) don't get to eat all the yummy food you planned on (what happened to Katerina and S at their wedding), someone breaks something, the DJ plays from your "do not play" list. You just have to let it go.

4). Book things and get a handle on projects sooner rather than later. Later = stressful, which, as I've said before, is not something you need more of. Also: do lots and lots of research.

5). You can't make everyone happy. As much as you want everyone to be just as excited for your dream wedding as you are, someone is going to have a criticism. You just have to decide how much that person's happiness about a certain detail matters to you in the long-run. You can't fight every battle and expect to win. You have to pick and choose and you have to be willing to compromise. Maybe this won't be true for everyone's wedding, but it will definitely bet true of mine.

And that's all the wedding advice I have for you today folks! Hopefully I'll have an ecstatic post for you later about how our dream date is going to work out! Then I'll introduce you to our venue!

Keep your fingers crossed!!!

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