Saturday, August 13, 2011

Engaged Encounter versus Pre Cana

Well no engagement can go completely without hurtles to face. Our first, and perhaps most serious came a few weeks ago when we found out our engaged encounter weekend had been canceled.

I got the message at work and was frantic for the rest of the day, trying to figure out what we were going to do instead. Since we are only 4 months away from the wedding, and most engaged encounter weekends book up months in advance, I was skeptical about being able to find another engaged encounter weekend with openings that was before December 31st.

So our only other option it seemed was Pre Cana, which had both pros and cons. But since we really didn't see any other options I called our officiant to give him the news and ask his opinion and he said gave a suggestion of a good pre cana parish. We registered and I assumed that was that. Crisis handled.

But now I hear that our officiant is having 2nd thoughts. He feels we really should do an engaged encounter. He also seems to have found one before December that may or may not have openings. I suppose we're still open to the idea of going (my father feels strongly that we should do engaged encounter over pre cana-he even suggested we do both just to ensure the engaged encounter happens). But honestly, I don't want to do both, and I find it difficult to put my faith in an engaged encounter that's only a month before the wedding when they've already canceled the weekend on me once. And with only 3 weeks notice. I have to say I was a little put off. Also, I called 3 different people trying to find out about other engaged encounter weekends, but since their work day ends at 2:30 and mine ends at 3:30 (at the earliest) I had to leave messages. And I have yet to hear back from anyone.

So needless to say, I'm not sure how I feel about Engaged Encounter right now, particularly not in this diocese. Our officiant feels so strongly about it because he says we're a "perfect couple" for engaged encounter. I'm not sure what that means, but I suppose he would know.

Anyway, I'll keep you updated on the situation going forward. For now, we're registered for an October Pre Cana and ONLY an October Pre Cana. Whether that will change I can't say.

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