Friday, October 14, 2011

The Question on Everybody's Mind

Since I am a reasonably young bride I have been anticipating the day when people would start questioning whether or not I'm nervous about making this important life decision. I managed to avoid the question for most of my engagement, but as the big day draws nearer I find myself running into "the question" more and more often.

So... are you nervous?

Granted it's no uncomfortable prying about how unlikely it is that you can find "the one" at a young age (something I wholeheartedly disagree with obviously). But it is getting rather annoying. Because my answer is always: "No, not really." Am I nervous about something big going wrong on the day of the wedding? You betcha. Am I worried about a New Years blizzard? You better believe it. Am I keeping my fingers crossed that all my guests have a f***ing awesome time at our New Year's Wedding? Hell yeah!

But the whole marriage part? Not really nervous about it. It's impossible to know what Mishka and my future holds, but I know Mishka well enough to know that we will face any future problems together. The question will not be "is this the dealbreaker?" but "how do we fix this?" This has always been our attitude, from our first date to just a few minutes ago when Mishka watched one of my favorite shows (that he hates) over his new favorite series which he is dying to work through.

That's a little more long winded than my answer of "No, not really." But since it's mostly complete strangers who pose the question I figure the answer is appropriate.

This is all not to say that it's not ok to be nervous about getting married. It is a huge step to be taking and there are a whole range of emotions that people can and do feel while they're planning a wedding. Many people have second thoughts which help them work out their doubts and truly reinforce their love for their partner so that they can enter into a truly successful and happy marriage. That just hasn't been my particular experience.

If I had followers on this blog I would ask if you were questioned on being anxious about your wedding. If so, how did you answer?

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